Being partnered with a narcissist or borderline personality can be hard enough, but learning how to shield children from the fallout is paramount. Here, the authors show readers how to manage parenting when a narcissistic or borderline partner is part of the equation. Life in a narcissistic family system is at best challenging, and too often filled with chaos, isolation, emotional outbursts, and rigid controlling behaviors. It is too often devoid of peace and emotional safety. In the worst outcomes, children in these families grow up with low self-worth, issues with trust and belonging, and a lack of self-compassion. They are at significant risk of carrying the cycle forward and having poor adult relationships. This book offers a way to intervene and disrupt the cycle of negative outcomes for children. Written by two family therapists who bring a combined total of sixty years of clinical practice with individuals and families, the book pulls no punches, giving clear-headed advice, easy to follow actions to help children, and an abundance of teaching examples. Instead of the doom and gloom scenarios often presented about life with a narcissist or borderline, this book provides a much more positive outlook, and most importantly, it offers hope and a path to an entirely different outcome for the family members. Supported by current research in neuroscience, mindfulness and parenting information, the book focuses on teaching resilience and self-compassion to raise emotionally healthy children, even in a narcissistic family system. It starts by helping parents get a clear understanding of what they face with a narcissistic or borderline partner. There is no room here for denial, but there are also many options to explore. It explains how and why the narcissistic family system functions so poorly for raising healthy children, and pinpoints the deficits while providing information on how to intervene more effectively for the benefit of the children. Using their years of experience, the authors present ideas for staying together as well as knowing when to leave the relationship and how best to do that. Emphasis throughout the book is on supporting and strengthening the reader with encouragement, concrete ideas, skills and compassionate understanding.

This is not an examination of the quality or quantity of your faith. It is an examination of the existence of your faith. There are only two responses to this examination of self. Yes, I am in the faith or no, I am not in the faith. If the answer is yes, then you got there by seeking the Lord. You did not pray for faith, you sought God and faith came. If the answer is no, you will not get in the faith by praying for faith. You will only get in the faith by seeking God. We will never get more faith by seeking more faith. When I began this Bible study, my goal was simple. I was in the faith but I really felt I needed more faith. What I really needed was to learn more about the faith I had. I learned that faith has the capacity to be in one accord with God. If we seek God and His ways, we will find that we have all the faith we need. The purpose of seeking God is so that we will know what we can be in accord with. The chapters in this book are based on the great faith chapter in the Bible, Hebrews 11.